When Someone Irritates You, Look Within Yourself First
When Someone Irritates You, Look Within Yourself First When you find yourself angry or irritated with someone, look at yourself first. Don't immediately ask: "What's wrong with this person?" Instead, ask: "What does my irritation tell me about myself?" Sometimes, what irritates us in other people can reveal something about ourselves. Perhaps the behavior reminds us of a quality we dislike in ourselves. Perhaps it touches an insecurity, an unresolved emotion, or something we have been trying to ignore. This doesn't mean that every criticism we have of another person is a projection. Sometimes people genuinely behave badly, and our reaction is completely understandable. But when someone's behavior triggers an unusually strong emotional reaction, it can be valuable to pause and look inward. Ask yourself: Why does this bother me so much? What exactly about this person triggers me? Have I ever behaved in a similar way? Is this touching an insecurity or un...