8 Lessons I learned from “The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*ck”

 The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck is described as a self-help book for people who hate self-help books.

Technically, it’s advertised as a generation-defining guide to life.

While the majority of your decision making years are still ahead of you gives you time to consider his suggestions carefully to ensure you’re living life as happily and freely as possible. Here are 8 notable lessons from this book:

1.Happiness is not something that is magically bestowed upon you. You won’t find happiness waiting for you. Instead, happiness is a constant work-in-progress. True happiness is a positive emotion that you’re rewarded with after taking the proper action when faced with a problem.

2. If you want the end reward, you have to be willing to struggle for it. You can’t want the result but not the process it takes to get to the end result. The most simple and basic component of life is that your struggles determine your successes.

3. It’s critical to set appropriate values for situations and measure them by appropriate metrics. What is objectively true about a situation you’re in is not as important as how you choose to measure the situation and value it.

4. Things go wrong. People upset you. Accidents happen. Denying your negative emotions will only perpetuate problems, rather than solve them. Instead, you need to express your negative emotions in a healthy and appropriate way that aligns with your values.

5. When you have poor values, you give f*cks about things that don’t matter and only make life worse. But, when you have better values, you divert your f*cks toward things that improve your state of well-being, generate happiness, increase pleasure, and lead to success.

6. While you cannot always control what happens to you, you can always control how you interpret what happens to you and how you respond. You are always making choices about things to give a f*ck about, whether you realize it or not.

7. The more often you choose to accept responsibility in your life, the more power you will exercise over your life. Responsibility results from choices you’re currently making in the present.

8. Sometimes life sucks, and that’s actually okay. Suffering is biologically useful, as it’s nature’s preferred agent for inspiring change. A certain degree of dissatisfaction keeps you fighting, striving, building, and conquering

Pain and suffering teach you to pay attention when you’re being careless, show you what’s good for you versus what’s bad for you, and help you understand your limitations. Pain is an indication of something being out of equilibrium so you can recalibrate.

Hope you have enjoyed it.