5 things that will make you look more confident

 5 - things that will make you look more confident

1. Be relaxed don't talk too fast

2. Be Non-Reactive Don't Rush into responses

Supply only when it is demanded. Answer only when you are asked, and LIMIT your ANSWER to what is asked.

3. Stay calm and focused. Talk less. Remember: Confidence is Silent Insecurities are Loud.

4. Exercise regularly. Not only it improves your Posture and Appreacnce, but it also boosts your Self -Esteem as well.

5. Dress well, Stand Straight, Give firm Handshakes.

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8 Lessons I learned from “The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*ck”

 The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck is described as a self-help book for people who hate self-help books.

Technically, it’s advertised as a generation-defining guide to life.

While the majority of your decision making years are still ahead of you gives you time to consider his suggestions carefully to ensure you’re living life as happily and freely as possible. Here are 8 notable lessons from this book:

1.Happiness is not something that is magically bestowed upon you. You won’t find happiness waiting for you. Instead, happiness is a constant work-in-progress. True happiness is a positive emotion that you’re rewarded with after taking the proper action when faced with a problem.

2. If you want the end reward, you have to be willing to struggle for it. You can’t want the result but not the process it takes to get to the end result. The most simple and basic component of life is that your struggles determine your successes.

3. It’s critical to set appropriate values for situations and measure them by appropriate metrics. What is objectively true about a situation you’re in is not as important as how you choose to measure the situation and value it.

4. Things go wrong. People upset you. Accidents happen. Denying your negative emotions will only perpetuate problems, rather than solve them. Instead, you need to express your negative emotions in a healthy and appropriate way that aligns with your values.

5. When you have poor values, you give f*cks about things that don’t matter and only make life worse. But, when you have better values, you divert your f*cks toward things that improve your state of well-being, generate happiness, increase pleasure, and lead to success.

6. While you cannot always control what happens to you, you can always control how you interpret what happens to you and how you respond. You are always making choices about things to give a f*ck about, whether you realize it or not.

7. The more often you choose to accept responsibility in your life, the more power you will exercise over your life. Responsibility results from choices you’re currently making in the present.

8. Sometimes life sucks, and that’s actually okay. Suffering is biologically useful, as it’s nature’s preferred agent for inspiring change. A certain degree of dissatisfaction keeps you fighting, striving, building, and conquering

Pain and suffering teach you to pay attention when you’re being careless, show you what’s good for you versus what’s bad for you, and help you understand your limitations. Pain is an indication of something being out of equilibrium so you can recalibrate.

Hope you have enjoyed it.

Behavioral Psychology You Should Know.

 1. Bandwagon Effect.

- You are more likely to adopt an idea or belief as it increases in popularity among people. When everyone is doing something, there is pressure to conform. For Eg., You begin wearing a certain style of clothing as you see others adopt the same fashions.

2. Forer Effect or Barnum Effect. - You easily attribute your personalities to vague statements, even if they can apply to a wide range of people. For Eg., Reading your horoscope in a newspaper and realizing it's surprisingly accurate.

3. Dunning Kruger Effect. - You overestimate your abilities when you know nothing, but you underestimate your abilities when you know everything. For Eg., People who know relatively little about politics and government are more likely than others to overestimate their knowledge

4. Gambler's Fallacy. - You think future possibilities are affected by past events. For Eg., "I've flipped heads with this coin five times consecutively, so the chance of tails coming out on the sixth flip is much greater than heads."

5. Bystander Effect. - When an emergency situation occurs, you are more likely to take action if there are few or no witnesses. In case of a large crowd, You are less likely to take action For eg., You are less likely to help a victim when there are other people present to help.

6. Stereotyping. - You judge a person based on preconceived ideas or images regarding the behavior and characteristics of a particular group. For Eg., a Person wearing glasses will be preconceived as a nerd.

7. Anchoring Bias. - You rely too heavily on one piece of information when making decisions (usually the first piece of information acquired on that subject) For eg., If you first see a T-shirt that costs $500, then see one that costs $100, you see the second shirt as cheap.

8. Hindsight Bias. - You tend to see past events as being predictable at the time those events happened. For Eg., Before the Event: I think this stock will increase in value but I am not sure. After the stock rises by 50%: I knew it would rise. I was certain.

9. Diderot Effect. - If you buy something new, you will feel compelled to buy more items that are related to the new one. For Eg., You buy a new dress and now you have to get accessories to match.

10. Sleeper Effect. - You get a delayed change in your attitude when you are persuaded by an advertisement or a message, over time even though you are against it at first. For Eg., an Intentional portrait of a negative image about one candidate by another during elections.

5 Life Changing Habits

 1. I started to read books on a daily basis

RICH DAD POOR DAD  ( Wealth )

ATOMIC HABITS  (Self-Help)

THE 4 HOUR WORK WEEK ( Automation )

ZERO TO ONE ( Entrepreneurship )

THE INTELLIGENT INVESTOR ( Investment )

HOW TO INFLUENCE PEOPLE AND WIN FRIENDS ( Self-Help )

2.I learned to use my time WISELY By:

- Working in 30mins with 5min breaks (Pomodoro Technique)

- Limited my daily time spent on SOCIAL MEDIA

- Planned my days in advance divided by activities

- Daily "Must do" activities:  Self - Education, Sport, Business Scaling, Networking

- No presents/Self-appreciation until I got my money right.

3. I taught myself how to multiply my money

What most people don't know is that its not about how much money you make, its about how much money you keep.

Buying fancy stuff to look rich is the worst thing you could do.  

Stay calm, buy appreceating assets and see your money growing like a tree.

Dont go broke trying to LOOK RICH.

4. I have set priorities and focussed on my few goals that made me RICH

Focusing on a few things is a real game-changer and is helping you to keep distractions away.

Everything else was just background noise pushing me backward.

Stop distraction and focus on the things creating CASH FLOW.

5. I Invested heavily in myself and my future

1- Invested in Me

a)Books, Courses, Seminars

b)Self Confidence, Public Speaking, Networking

2-Cash Flow Assets

A)  My online Business

B)  Stocks, Mutual Funds, FDs, and other capital market instruments

C) Real Estate

D) Commodities

E) Side Hustle

What to do Before you Are 30?

1. Work your ass off

2. Become Financialy Independent

3. Read a Lot

4. Surround Yourself with Leaders

5. Be Different

6. Develop Multiple streams of Income

7. Start Eating Healthy

8. Become more observing

9. Develop Excellent Communication

10. Travel as much as Possible,but keep money for Investment

4 Reasons why you need to swallow your pride and ask for help

 Most people prefer to look good in their "perfect" image than to look stupid by asking for help.

They will rather suffer within than let another person in to help solve their problems.

This attitude most often leads to stagnation, killing you slowly in the long term. Stay tuned as I walk you through the reasons why asking for help makes you a stronger being rather than being seen as a weakling

1. It's an opportunity to develop relationships. Asking for help enhances your chances of creating a network with people. Asking for help sends a signal to other people that you are willing to learn and evolve.

2. It improves resilience. Asking for help allows us to surround ourselves with people who can inspire and create an atmosphere of optimism to deal with challenging situations.

3. Teams are often better than individuals. Working with a team increases your chances of succeeding than working alone.

4. It develops a growth mindset: The key to improving is feeling connected to others and learning new things. Isolation often leads to worry, doubt and stress.

17 Rules of money. Learn this

 1. Pay yourself first.

2. Learn how to invest.

3. Don't be a hater of it.

4. Give every Rupee a job.

5. Spend less than you earn.

6. Have a plan and set goals.

7. Don't be a slave to money.

8. If you have it don't flaunt it.

9. Keep your finances organized.

10. It's a game learn how it works.

11. Always have an emergency fund.

12. Always make money work for you.

13. Learn how to make money passively.

14. Use it to solve problems in the world.

15. Know how to risk it and leverage it.

16. Don't use credit/credit card if you don't have cash.

17. It's not what you make it's what you keep.

8 reasons why you should play chess…

 1. Learn to accept failure:

You will lose a lot in chess, especially as a beginner. The sooner you learn from these lessons you can bounce back and become a better player from experience. This can be applied to the game of life.

2. Focus: Chess requires a massive amount of focus. One slip of focus can lose you the entire game even if you were fully focused 99% of the time. It’s not good enough. Learning and utilising 100% focus through chess is vital. This can be applied to the game of life

3. Confidence: Chess will build confidence. As you lose, learn, analyse and grow from experience you will develop confidence with each success you have. You begin to trust your actions, movement and decisions as to be the right one. This can be applied to the game of life.

4. Performance/Calmness under pressure: Especially with timed chess, difficult decisions which can impact the outcome of the game have to be made in seconds. With experience, you become better at making critical decision. This can be applied to the game of life.

5. Self-sufficiency: Teaches you to know yourself without being dependant on others people’s decisions and help. It teaches you to be responsible with your own decisions and actions, win or lose. This can be applied to the game of life.

6. Memory: It’s incredibly complex to play. To get good at chess you will need to remember a lot of strategies and tactics of different moves to gain an advantage. The more you remember, the better you will be able to play. This can be applied to the game of life.

7. Creative thinking: You may be on the back foot, losing pieces and on the verge of defeat. Yet a single move can turn the entire tide on your opponent. This requires you to think beyond your normal measure. This can be applied to the game of life.

8. Logical thinking: Remove emotion from decision making. Yep - the stoicism mindset. The less emotion attached to your decisions means you will think clearer about your move, enhancing the chances of a better move. And yes, this can also be applied to the game of life.

Chess has transferable skills which you can apply to the game of life.

Think of all the points above. Playing chess will enhance your life and focus you on your true goals.

Versus Others or Versus Myself - The Fight

 Competition is a popular topic on Life.

While, Everyone agrees you should do it and Everyone disagrees on when you should. So without further ado, let’s break down. -“What” types of competition there are -“When” to use them

A NEED FOR SURVIVAL Humans are competitive by nature. We have. We Are. We will continue to. Fight for two things. Resources and Power That’s it. It’s been like this and will stay like this forever.

MAN VS ENVIRONMENT As humans, Our most natural state is cooperation. Our most natural enemy is nature. We work together when There is a threat to the tribe or There is a gain for the tribe

MAN VS MAN Humans evolved to have a NEED for fighting. But as we began to conquer everything, Nature simply wasn’t a challenge anymore. So we began fighting amongst ourselves, Not out conflict, but out of practice

With communities thriving and Nature being no match. We looked for new conquests, With new opportunities. Combine boredom with a neighbor who A, Has stuff you want and B, Lives life differently than you do. Then BOOM! War happens.

“In your day-to-day life, choose the bravest choices,Break rules at every opportunity and live with intention. Do this for 1000 days, You will be someone.”

20 Powerful Philosophy Quotes From "Friedrich Nietzsche"

 1. “You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist.”

2. "There are two different types of people in the world, those who want to know, and those who want to believe."

3. "I was in darkness, but I took three steps and found myself in paradise. The first step was a good thought, the second, a good word; and the third, a good deed."

4. “I'm not upset that you lied to me, I'm upset that from now on I can't believe you.”

5. “That which does not kill us makes us stronger.”

6. “It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.”

7. "Nobody is more inferior than those who insist on being equal."

8. "And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music."

9. "To live is to suffer, to survive is to find some meaning in the suffering."

10. "Enjoy life. This is not a dress rehearsal."

11. "No price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself."

12. “He who would learn to fly one day must first learn to walk and run and climb and dance; one cannot fly into flying. ”

13. “you must be ready to burn yourself in your own flame; How could you rise anew if you have not first become ashes?”

14. "Do you want to have an easy life? Then always stay with the herd and lose yourself in the herd."

15. "My solitude doesn’t depend on the presence or absence of people; on the contrary, I hate who steals my solitude without, in exchange, offering me true company."

16. "Love your enemies because they bring out the best in you."

17. "The higher we soar the smaller we appear to those who cannot fly."

18. "The snake which cannot cast its skin has to die. As well the minds which are prevented from changing their opinions; they cease to be mind."

19. "Loneliness is one thing, solitude another."

20. "There are no facts, only interpretations."

27 Life Lessons You Should Learn From The Game Of Chess.

 How about you stop dwelling on past and regretting your failures?

How about you take full control over your emotions, thoughts and actions?

What if you could design your ideal future yourself?

Here are the Answers....

1. Make every move with intent. Align your actions with a pre-determined strategy.

2. Learn to play and live less obviously. Be unpredictable and interesting. 3. Always consider the whole board when deciding on a move. See the big picture.

4. Spot patterns. Learn to see patterns and take advantage of them. 5. Play for the advantage. If you already have it, maintain it. If you don't have it, create it. 6. Accumulate small advantages.

7. Trade wisely. Where possible, trade low-value positions for better ones. 8. Everyone's playing their game. The problem is that not everyone knows they are playing. 9. Castle your king. Protect the things that are most important.

10. Cut your losses. Sometimes you are going to lose. Try to minimize your losses and move on. 11. Never get too comfortable. Keep thinking, looking for new opportunities. 12. Every move is important.

13. Never let your emotions guide your actions. 14. Attack threats with moves that will improve your position. 15. Be prepared to make sacrifices for the position.

16. Keep calm and move slowly. 17. When you lose, learn the lesson. 18. Don't rush important decisions.

19. Think ahead. Always think two or three steps ahead. 20. Have more than one plan. 21. Be impressed with the moves not with the titles or words.

22. Be flexible. When things don't go the way you wanted - adjust and continue. 23. Ignore distractions. 24. When you lose, learn the lesson.

25. How you start the game determines how you will finish it. 26. If an opening appears, seize it. 27. Until the mission is really accomplished, don't declare victory.

8 LESSONS PEOPLE LEARN TOO LATE IN LIFE

 1. Important People Come and Go, and that's Okay

Unfortunately, the most important people in your life can become strangers overnight.

Fortunately, total strangers can become the most important people in your life overnight.

This process hurts, but if accepted, it serves to improve the quality and suitability of the people in your life.

2. Your Diet is not just what you eat.

As you get older you realize that your diet isn't just what you eat, it's what you watch, what you read, who you follow, and who you spend your time with.

So if your goal is to have a healthier mind, you have to start by removing all the junk from your Diet.

3.You have to let people down to be happy.

You and your mental health are more important than your career, more money, other people's opinion, that even you said you would attend, your partners' mood and your family's wishes.

If taking care of yourself means letting someone down, then let someone down.

Your self-love must always be stronger than your desire to be loved by others.

4.Never let rejection lead to Self-Rejection

A person who has experienced rejection fear rejection and a person that fears rejection tends to push or run away before they can be rejected.

In their subconscious mind, they have avoided rejection.

In reality, they have been rejected again this time by themselves.

5.Own your responsibilities, own your future.

You are not responsible for your trauma but you are responsible for breaking the cycle and not hurting more people because of what happened to you.

You will never control your future if you let your present be controlled by your past.

What happened yesterday may not be your responsibility, but how you behave today is.

6.Quality over Quantity

Life is about quality, not Quantity.

One quality friend gives you more than 100 acquaintances

One quality relationship gives you more than 100 Flings.

One quality experience gives more than 100 drunken nights.

7.Fairytales will make you Unhappy.

Obsessing over the things that society said you're "supposed to do" will kill your Happiness.

Don't listen to the fake fairytales of how your life is supposed to be going.

You don't have to go to university at 18,

 or get a job at 21,

or buy a hose at 25,

or get married at 30,

or have kids at 35.

Everyone is different, and your path to happiness will be too.

8. Fun is yours

if you want to enjoy your life, don't subscribe to other people's definition of "Fun".

The fun doesn't have to mean drinking, partying, and socializing.

Fun can be a night in alone,

getting lost in a book,

a deep conversation,

a walk,

creating art,

playing music or doing work that you love.

Your fun belongs to you, make sure you define it.

28 Lessons I wish I knew Earlier...

 28 Lessons I wish I knew Earlier...

1. No one has it all figured out

2. Being Nice is overrated, be kind be fair. be understanding, Not "Nice"

3. To love is to be vulnerable, let your guard down.

4. Good or bad , You can learn from Everybody.

5.Embrace all of your emotions, dont ignore them, dont mask them embrace them.

6. Travelling alone is better than with bad company.

7.Unlearning is just as important as Learning.

8. No one prepares you to watch your parents grow old.

9. Maturity is accepting you won't get answers to the things that hurt you most - HEAL ANYWAY.

10.One of the most important decisions you will ever make in life is whom you have children with. Choose wisely.

11. Women friends are cool, don't try to sleep with them.

12.Own up to your mistakes/ do what you say you'd do.

13.You dont have to learn everything the hard way.

14.One day you will need to be forgiven so learn to forgive others.

15. Instead of buying your children what you didn't have, teach them what you didn't know.

16.Never let your inner child die.

17.If someone doesn't treat you as good as chick fill an employee, they don't deserve to be in your life.

18. No one is a Mind Reader, Voice how you feel.

19.Never feel bad about promoting yourself.

20.If you value your time, say no to anything that you don't absolutely want to do.

21.Spending time alone is one of the best thing you can do.

22.Celebrate your accomplishments.

23.If you care too much about what other people think, you are effectively their slave.

24.Be so busy improving your life that you dont have time to criticize others.

25.Everyone you Love will eventually die, Spend your time with your loved ones- Keep them Close.

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