How to give 0 f*cks and be self-sufficient

 

 ✪ Identify your desires, goals, plans, tasks ,After all, if you don't know what you want, others will push their expectations and tell you what and when you should do it.

To be self-sufficient, one must follow one's own goals rather than those of others.

✪ The way you allow others to treat you is how they will treat you. The key aspect is "self-esteem," and you must clearly define the boundaries of what others are permitted to do with you.

Outside these boundaries, there is nothing to talk about, and there is no need for that. Never do something that destroys your self-esteem. “Self-sufficiency” without “self-respect” does not exist.

✪ The true love of a woman is always based on respect for her beloved man. Even though I usually suggest doing everything possible to maintain a relationship.

I'll tell you, bluntly: "if you believe that a lady does not respect you, you must quit this relationship."

Self-sufficiency requires a clear and strong stance on this matter.

✪ Your ultimate objective should be to not fool yourself. Look for yourself, grow yourself, realize yourself, make errors, follow your dreams, love your parents and close friends, and take care of your world.

Everything else is merely what people think of you. Self-sufficiency is the courage to remain “Self” and “follow Your path."

✪ Be as genuine as possible, Otherwise, the more you try to fake something, the stronger becomes your fear, i.e., someone will find out that you really are not you. Why are you so stressed? Self-sufficiency is the desire “to be,” not “just to appear.”

True self-sufficiency is when nobody has authority over you, and you do not permit them to do so. The keyword here is "permission." Think about it. To not depend on opinions and assessments, one has to accept oneself with all his negatives and positives.

This means that you need to be aware and feel your right over yourself. Well, of course, if you want to change something in yourself, then work on it. But do it for yourself, not to satisfy someone else, be loved by someone else, or become "good" or "bad" for someone else.

A self-sufficient person does not feel flawless or improves out of fear of being awful. Self-sufficiency is defined as "improving for the sake of self-realization and self-disclosure."

✪ Never demand anything from others: Of course, you can ask for it. But Demand - NO. Demand only from yourself. Then, you will no longer have any grievances or claims against others. It is impossible to imagine a self-sufficient person experiencing grievances and claims. Proceed from the consideration of your interests.

Those who consistently act against their own interests will not be regarded in any circle, let alone by women. Do not try to prove your self-sufficiency to others. Prove only to yourself, if necessary.

Self-sufficiency, my friend, is actually the game of your internal preferences.