Thoughts 05/02/16

HOW TO STOP ABSORBING OTHER PEOPLE’S NEGATIVE ENERGY

Empathy is the ability to recognize and feel other peoples emotions. Sympathy is feeling compassion for other people. Often times to be an “empath” means that you are absorbing much of the pain and suffering in your environment, which can sacrifice your won ability to function at a high level.

If you have every been in a room with a negative person, you know just how toxic their energy can be.  Learning to stop absorbing other people’s energies is such a great spiritual skill to have.  Here are five ways to stop absorbing other people’s energy.

1) Remember, you can’t please everyone

If someone is bullying you, complaining about you, or dissing you, do not make it your mission to try to convince that person to like you.  This will only suck you deeper into that energy field and will make you energetically dependent on their opinion of you.

Not everyone is going to like you. Everyone on earth is living here for a different purpose. By loving yourself first, you will create a forcefield around other peoples opinions that will protect you from being so drained by their opinions.

Also remember, you can’t change everyone. Don’t make it your mission to fix them in that moment either.  Sometimes, the best thing you can do is not try to change them but to just not feed the energy that they are projecting at you.

2) Be careful who you invite into your life

Your body, mind and direct environment is your temple. Who are you inviting in? Is it an open invitation? Do people even have to wipe their feet clean before walking around or is it ok if they drag mud onto your soul? In Brazil there is a slang word called folgado. The direct meaning is “loose” or “lazy” but it really means “freeloader”. There is not exact english equivalent though because it is a mentality even more than a lifestyle.

If you give a person a piece of bread one day, they will be asking for the loaf the next. If you let someone stay for a weekend, they will then try to stay the week (or two!). I once thought my wife was cold and mean spirited towards some of our neighbors. Once I realized she was merely respecting herself and her home, I valued her direction and adopted it as my own.

It is great to be generous but there is a fine line to work with so you are not being trampled on, thus disabling you from helping those who truly need it. Learn to say “no” and to be ok with that.

3) Stop paying attention

A parasite needs a host to survive. When you pay attention to somebody else, you are giving them energy. Whatever you focus on grows and energy vampires will steal your thoughts – decreasing your energy levels. Some people will dump their energy onto you and then drive on to the next pit stop. A friendly ear can be a wonderful thing but there is, again, a line that does not need to be crossed.

Perhaps you’ve found yourself being the source for a person to relay their frustrations at work, a relationship or even successful accomplishments. All of these emotions can drain you in various ways and cause you to measure your own life in ways that are not productive.

Love yourself enough to tune them out, tell them to stop, or tell them you can’t handle it right now.  It’s not mean of you to reject their toxic energy.

4) Breathe in nature

Go into nature, meditate, relax and breathe. Purify the water within yourself, exercise and float easy. Like a butterfly, float gently but move fast. Breathing increases the bloodflow circulation around the body and will help prevent to absorb energy from those around you. Walk with confidence, keep your head up and don’t allow anyone to make you feel inferior. A caterpillar eats everything around it and becomes fat, immobile. It must first become light in order to fly.

5) Take 100% responsibility for your thoughts and emotions

How you feel is 100% your own responsibility. The universe is sending people into your life to test us. The perception we have of ourselves is greater than the perception others have of us. You are not a victim, nobody has power over you.  Consider how your thoughts or expectations may have manifested the situation that is bothering you.  What if the answer lies within your level of patience, irritability, or compassion? Unless we take the time to look, we subconsciously affirm our own victimization to the world around us.

Once you hold yourself accountable and responsible for the way you choose to respond to something, you connect with yourself on a deeper level.  When you are connected to yourself on a deeper level, you don’t get knocked off your center as easily.

Place yourself in situations that boost your own energies. Does this person make you feel good? Do you make that person feel good? You are worthy of a brilliant experience and it is time to realize that fact.  Learning to protect yourself against other people’s energies starts with self-love.  Remember that you are worth of happiness and peace, it’s ok to say no. and you are the author of your own energetic state.

गुरुकुल कैसे खत्म हो गये ?

भारतवर्ष में गुरुकुल कैसे खत्म हो गये ? कॉन्वेंट स्कूलों ने किया बर्बाद | 1858 में Indian Education Act बनाया गया। इसकी ड्राफ्टिंग ‘लोर्ड मैकोले’ ने की थी। लेकिन उसके पहले उसने यहाँ (भारत) के शिक्षा व्यवस्था का सर्वेक्षण कराया था, उसके पहले भी कई अंग्रेजों ने भारत की शिक्षा व्यवस्था के बारे में अपनी रिपोर्ट दी थी। अंग्रेजों का एक अधिकारी था G.W. Litnar और दूसरा था Thomas Munro ! दोनों ने अलग अलग इलाकों का अलग-अलग समय सर्वे किया था। Litnar, जिसने उत्तर भारत का सर्वे किया था, उसने लिखा है कि यहाँ 97% साक्षरता है और Munro, जिसने दक्षिण भारत का सर्वे किया था, उसने लिखा कि यहाँ तो 100% साक्षरता है |

मैकोले का स्पष्ट कहना था कि भारत को हमेशा-हमेशा के लिए अगर गुलाम बनाना है तो इसकी “देशी और सांस्कृतिक शिक्षा व्यवस्था” को पूरी तरह से ध्वस्त करना होगा और उसकी जगह “अंग्रेजी शिक्षा व्यवस्था” लानी होगी और तभी इस देश में शरीर से हिन्दुस्तानी लेकिन दिमाग से अंग्रेज पैदा होंगे और जब इस देश की यूनिवर्सिटी से निकलेंगे तो हमारे हित में काम करेंगे | मैकाले एक मुहावरा इस्तेमाल कर रहा है : “कि जैसे किसी खेत में कोई फसल लगाने के पहले पूरी तरह जोत दिया जाता है वैसे ही इसे जोतना होगा और अंग्रेजी शिक्षा व्यवस्था लानी होगी।” इस लिए उसने सबसे पहले गुरुकुलों को गैरकानूनी घोषित किया | जब गुरुकुल गैरकानूनी हो गए तो उनको मिलने वाली सहायता जो समाज की तरफ से होती थी वो गैरकानूनी हो गयी | फिर संस्कृत को गैरकानूनी घोषित किया और इस देश के गुरुकुलों को घूम घूम कर ख़त्म कर दिया | उनमें आग लगा दी, उसमें पढ़ाने वाले गुरुओं को उसने मारा-पीटा, जेल में डाला।

1850 तक इस देश में ’7 लाख 32 हजार’ गुरुकुल हुआ करते थे और उस समय इस देश में गाँव थे ’7 लाख 50 हजार’ | मतलब हर गाँव में औसतन एक गुरुकुल और ये जो गुरुकुल होते थे वो सब के सब आज की भाषा में ‘Higher Learning Institute’ हुआ करते थे उन सबमे 18 विषय पढाया जाता था और ये गुरुकुल समाज के लोग मिलके चलाते थे न कि राजा, महाराजा | इन गुरुकुलों में शिक्षा निःशुल्क दी जाती थी। इस तरह से सारे गुरुकुलों को ख़त्म किया गया और फिर अंग्रेजी शिक्षा को कानूनी घोषित किया गया और कलकत्ता में पहला कॉन्वेंट स्कूल खोला गया | उस समय इसे ‘फ्री स्कूल’ कहा जाता था, इसी कानून के तहत भारत में कलकत्ता यूनिवर्सिटी बनाई गयी, बम्बई यूनिवर्सिटी बनाई गयी, मद्रास यूनिवर्सिटी बनाई गयी और ये तीनों गुलामी के ज़माने के यूनिवर्सिटी आज भी इस देश में हैं |

मैकोले ने अपने पिता को एक चिट्ठी लिखी थी बहुत मशहूर चिट्ठी है वो, उसमें वो लिखता है कि: “इन कॉन्वेंट स्कूलों से ऐसे बच्चे निकलेंगे जो देखने में तो भारतीय होंगे लेकिन दिमाग से अंग्रेज होंगे और इन्हें अपने देश के बारे में कुछ पता नहीं होगा | इनको अपने संस्कृति के बारे में कुछ पता नहीं होगा, इनको अपने परम्पराओं के बारे में कुछ पता नहीं होगा, इनको अपने मुहावरे नहीं मालूम होंगे, जब ऐसे बच्चे होंगे इस देश में तो अंग्रेज भले ही चले जाएँ इस देश से अंग्रेजियत नहीं जाएगी।”

उस समय लिखी चिट्ठी की सच्चाई इस देश में वर्तमान में साफ़-साफ़ दिखाई दे रही है और उस एक्ट की महिमा देखिये कि हमें अपनी भाषा बोलने में शर्म आती है, अंग्रेजी में बोलते हैं कि दूसरों पर रोब पड़ेगा, अरे हम तो खुद में हीन हो गए हैं जिसे अपनी भाषा बोलने में शर्म आ रही है, दूसरों पर रोब क्या पड़ेगा। लोगों का तर्क है कि अंग्रेजी अंतर्राष्ट्रीय भाषा है, दुनिया में 204 देश हैं और अंग्रेजी सिर्फ 11 देशों में बोली, पढ़ी और समझी जाती है, फिर ये कैसे अंतर्राष्ट्रीय भाषा है। शब्दों के मामले में भी अंग्रेजी समृद्ध नहीं दरिद्र भाषा है। इन अंग्रेजों की जो बाइबिल है वो भी अंग्रेजी में नहीं थी और ईशा मसीह अंग्रेजी नहीं बोलते थे। ईशा मसीह की भाषा और बाइबिल की भाषा अरमेक थी। अरमेक भाषा की लिपि जो थी वो हमारे बंगला भाषा से मिलती जुलती थी | समय के कालचक्र में वो भाषा विलुप्त हो गयी। "संयुक्त राष्ट संघ" जो अमेरिका में है वहां की भाषा अंग्रेजी नहीं है, वहां का सारा काम फ्रेंच में होता है।

जो समाज अपनी मातृभाषा से कट जाता है उसका कभी भला नहीं होता और यही मैकोले की रणनीति थी !

Thoughts - 03/02/16

A story - Politics Campaign and Reality

A Story towards Life Must Read

A cruise ship met with an incident at sea, on the ship was a pair of couple, after having made their way to the lifeboat, they realized that there was only space for one person left.

At this moment, the man pushed the woman behind him and jumped onto the lifeboat himself.

The lady stood on the sinking ship and shouted one sentence to her husband.

The teacher stopped and asked, "What do you think she shouted?"

Most of the students excitedly answered, "I hate you! I was blind!"

Now, the teacher noticed a boy who was silent throughout, she got him to answer and he replied, "Teacher, I believe she would have shouted - Take care of our child!"

The teacher was surprised, asking "Have you heard this story before?"

The boy shook his head, "Nope, but that was what my mum told my dad before she died to disease".

The teacher lamented, "The answer is right".

The cruise sunk, the man went home and brought up their daughter single-handedly.

Many years later after the death of the man, their daughter found his diary while tidying his belongings.

It turns out that when parents went onto the cruise ship, the mother was already diagnosed with a terminal illness.
At the critical moment, the father rushed to the only chance of survival.

He wrote in his diary, "How I wished to sink to the bottom of the ocean with you, but for the sake of our daughter, I can only let you lie forever below the sea alone".

The story is finished, the class was silent.

The teacher knows that the student has understood the moral of the story, that of the good and the evil in the world, there are many complications behind them which are hard to understand.

Which is why we should never only focus on the surface and judge others without understanding them first.

Those who like to pay the bill, do so not because they are loaded but because they value friendship above money.

Those who take the initiative at work, do so not because they are stupid but because they understand the concept of responsibility.

Those who apologizes first after a fight, do so not because they are wrong but because they value the people around them.

Those who are willing to help you, do so not because they owe you any thing but because they see you as a true friend.

Those who often text you, do so not because they have nothing better to do but because you are in their heart.
One day, all of us will get separated from each other; we will miss our conversations of everything & nothing; the dreams that we had. Days will pass by, months, years, until this contact becomes rare... One day our children will see our pictures and ask 'Who are these people?' And we will smile with invisible tears because a heart is touched with a strong word and you will say: 'IT WAS THEM THAT I HAD THE BEST DAYS OF MY LIFE WITH'.